*Trigger warning: This post deals with the topic of suicide and self harm.

Last weekend, Farhan and Tanvir Towhid of Allen, Texas, killed their entire family. They took their own lives in the process, leaving behind a chilling suicide note in the wake.

There are many secrets to maturity that you really only learn by going through by growing older. My favorite lesson in maturity is the art of silence.

In 2020, I turned 40. It gave me a chance to look back at some of the lessons I had learned over the years and as the year came to a close, I reflected on how much I’d outgrown so many of the things that I’d once believed. When I was younger, I was taught that the best people were the ones who were able to entertain others and keep the attention of…

This is Part 1 in a series of posts on how to create compelling and engaging YouTube videos and online content. While much of the advice is for YouTube, the advice can be used for blogging and podcasting, too.

I spent over a decade in creating online content. I worked as a professional blogger for a very large media company and I took smaller news websites viral as Editor-in-Chief. So I know a thing or two about what kind of content people read and what makes a piece go viral.

This article is devoted to writing the content. This…

My Dear readers,

You are not alone.

There are so many things that circle through our minds. Whether they’re feelings of sadness and hopelessness, or whether they’re racing thoughts — this is a place where you can read about others who have shared your experiences.

It’s hard to be in a community where mental health is still taboo. We shy away from these topics, fearing that exposing ourselves will make us unliked, vulnerable, or even a pariah.

Welcome to our publication, where you aren’t an outlier or an outcast.

Read. Grow. Enlighten. Heal.

The problem with the word “mania” is that it’s often misunderstood.

When people think of someone experiencing a manic episode, they imagine a crazy cat lady dancing through the streets in a bathrobe, exposing herself to onlookers.

For starters, I’m not a crazy cat lady. I’m more of a bunny person. And usually when I’m experiencing a manic episode, nobody around me notices because not all manic episodes are obvious.

So what does a mania look like for me?

It starts with a trigger. That trigger could be anything — but for me, the trigger is usually something that makes me happy or excited, like a huge win.

I get so…

My dear Desi sisters and brothers,

Let’s not pretend that we “get” the Black Lives Matter movement. Let’s not turn this into some sort of “Me Too” moment where we come out and share our stories.

Because let’s be honest — we really don’t understand the African American struggle. Sure, we’ve experienced some form of racism. I’m Muslim. I know what it feels like to experience hate. But it’s still not the same fight. It’s not a fight rooted in centuries of dehumanization. I might have experienced a level of Islamophobia and xenophobia. Neither of those two carries the centuries…

Today, I did the unthinkable. I bought clothes from Walmart. I realize how pretentious this sounds, after all, we’re in the midst of a pandemic and people are dying. And here’s this uptight California girl who believes that Sephora should qualify as an “essential business” (hey, if you could see me right now, you’d agree that I’m a public hazard. I look like someone put a wig on Kumail Nanjiani). But I’m quarantined in one of the most trendy cities in the world and I just ran out of clothes. I know what you’re thinking — “use the f**in washer…

This diary is a chronicle of my adventures and learnings through the Great Quarantine of 2020. I have a lot to say and I figured that instead of barfing long WhatsApp texts to my buddies, I’d barf my thoughts to a universe of strangers.

In looking back on this Coronavirus crisis, I’m realizing one big thing — this sh*t’s real. And when it’s all said and done, we’ll all be different people. Some of us will be better. Others will go back to being the dirtbags and assholes we were before any of this started. …

This COVID19 crisis is by far the strangest thing I’ve experienced in my nearly forty years on this planet. We’re locked at home, bombarded with news of uncertainty. Day after day, we wait, cloistered in our homes.

Waiting for answers.

Waiting for an end to the quarantine.

Waiting for Christ, the Mahdi, or Keanu Reeves to save us all.

But there’s a silver lining in everything, if you look for it long enough. Coronavirus will change the world in many ways. Even for the good. It’s been two weeks and I’m already feeling the changes.

Companies will be kinder to working parents

During the earliest stages of…

This week, I was heartbroken to read the news that Muslim cleric Usama Canon was formally terminated from the very organization he founded, Ta’leef Collective. Now, I don’t consider myself much of a religious person and I don’t even attend Ta’leef on a regular basis, but Canon’s presence leaves a mark, even if you’ve interacted with this charismatic leader in brief passing. Now, the news that he was terminated on the grounds of misconduct didn’t sit well with me, especially since I’d only ever seen this man embodying grace and manners. As I received call after call and text after…

MK Ansari

Because well behaved women seldom make history. Lawyer, screenwriter, social activist, artist, and INTJ.

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